60 Intimacy Questions for Couples to Unlock True Intimacy

Humans were made for intimacy, so when we aren’t experiencing it, it’s possible we draw away from one another—if we let this continue it opens doors for disaster. 

Intimacy Questions for Couples

Questions to evoke emotional and relational intimacy

  • What is your greatest fear?

  • Where do you see us in 5, 10, 20 years?

  • Do you have any regrets in your life?

  • Are you content with our relationship?

  • What brings you joy?

  • What is something I’ve done that made you happy?

  • What is something I’ve done that has made you feel unappreciated?

  • What is your definition of happiness?

  • Do you feel appreciated in our relationship?

  • Do you feel loved?

  • What’s your favorite song or album?

  • What’s your favorite movie?

  • What could you get lost in for hours?

  • Where do you see yourself in 5, 10, 20 years?

  • What are your goals for our relationship?

  • What would like to see change in our relationship?

  • Do you feel like I’m proud of you? 

  • Do you feel respected in our relationship?

  • Are your needs being met in our marriage?

  • What are some things we did together that was special to you?

  • What would you like to do that’s adventurous?

  • Do you like it when I…?

  • What are the top 3 of your favorite things we do in bed?

  • What do you like about me?

  • What do you like about our sex life?

  • What don’t you like about our sex life?

  • Is there something I can do to make you feel more appreciated/loved?

  • Do you regret anything you’ve done?

  • If we could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?

  • What would you change about yourself, if you could change anything?

  • I am proud of you when…

  • I am so into you becasue…

  • I love you so much becasue…

  • What do you value about me?

  • What is the one thing you love most about me?

  • The one thing I love most about you is…

  • It hurts when you…

  • I need…more in our marriage.

  • What are some ways you feel heard?

  • I love it when you…

  • I hate it when you…

  • I wish we could do…again.

  • What 5 words would you use to describe me?

  • What was the greatest moment of your life?

  • If you could do anything you wanted, what would it be?

  • How can I better be there for you?

  • Do you feel like I’m supportive of your dreams?

  • What are your dreams?

  • What were you thinking when we first met?

  • Do you feel resentment towards me for something I did?

  • Is there anything I need to apologize for that hurt you?

  • What’s your definition of a perfect day?

  • What’s the biggest mistake you’ve ever made?

  • Is there something in your past that you just can’t face or work through?

  • Do you have good memories from your childhood?

  • What is something that inspires you?

  • What takes your breath away?

  • Do you trust me?

  • Do you feel safe with me?

  • Do you feel like we are soul mates?

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Written by Harry Rosen

Harry Rosen is an accomplished explorer, photographer, creative director, speaker, and author.


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